The marriage proposal is accepted. Now the crucial time of preparing wedding expenses comes. You have got together for a round table next evening and wondered who pays for wedding expenses? I warn you that today there are no strict rules for paying for a wedding. It may be a bride or a groom, their parents, or all together. The main thing is agreement and understanding of each other. Be attentive to your relatives and listen to each other, then everything will work out.
Are there any socially accepted rules of who pays for a wedding these days?
It is increasingly common nowadays to observe weddings where only the newlyweds bear all pays incurred. It may be couples who have lived together for a long time and have decided to spend their savings. But it can also be different. It may be couples who are not married for the first time or young people who earn enough to take full responsibility for wedding bills; or parents that desire to contribute to this important day for their children. Fortunately, traditional cost-sharing no longer exists in modern society because the bride's family would bear a significant part of the wedding payments. Maybe it is probably the most logical and excellent variant to divide the budget equally. Then no one will be left disadvantaged 🙂
But each case is different. We will observe the traditional wedding costs division. You may ignore these traditions and do as you and your family wish.
What the bride's family pays for the wedding
Customarily the bride's family incurs the highest costs. It all starts with a wedding attire (or your mother/grandmother can save your money giving their white dress for you to follow the family custom) and ends with the wedding organizer with ceremony organization costs. Today you with your family are free to decide whether to keep the traditional wedding payment etiquette or not.
Traditionally the bride's family pays for:
- betrothal expanses;
- fiancee's clothes (dress, wreath covers/veil, jewelry, shoes, clutch, garter belt and other details);
- wedding organizer;
- video and photography;
- transport and hotel rooms for the bride's friends;
- music, venue rental, décor for the ceremonial part;
- pre-wedding party expenses;
- wedding cake;
- florist and flowers expenses in some cases except for bridal bouquet and fiance's boutonniere (read more about wedding flowers and florist to know about flowers expenses);
- invitations, guests' name cards, etc.
What the groom's family pays for wedding
Historically they should finance marriage license, transport/hotel rooms for groomsmen, rehearsal dinner with its venue, food, music, decor, and invitation cards. They also fund the honeymoon (in this case, the groom's parents can spend more money than the bride's ones). But today, there are more cases when the groom himself may finance all honeymoon costs. Or a young couple creates a “honeymoon donation box,” where any guests who desire to make a contribution and help the couple with their honeymoon may put money in the box.
The fiance's parents wedding expense etiquette includes:
- marriage license;
- transport and hotel rooms for fiance's friends;
- bridal bouquet and groom's boutonniere;
- rehearsal dinner organization;
- music band with alcohol expenses;
- honeymoon organization.
What does the bride pay for?
It is customary that she finances make-up and hair, a wedding ring of her second half, and lovely gifts for her friends. But all costs can be divided between her parents if they decide to do it. The main thing is the family's initial agreement as sometimes parents who pay more money feel their power and may not listen to their daughter who wants to do things differently. You may think carefully about your priorities and desires to make a useful contribution and, of course, choice. Stay in reality and think about the exact sum of money you have and your desired wedding to not to be upset in the future. Read more about how to get everything done in time and make your wedding ideal.
Wedding pay by bridal includes:
- groom's wedding ring;
- brides and bridesmaids' make-up and hair;
- sweet presents for her parents, friends, and fiancé.
What does the groom pay for?
The fiancé defrays the price of his attire and presents. But all expenses may be divided with his parents.
Traditional wedding expenses by the groom are:
- his attire;
- engagement rings together with fiancee's wedding ring;
- any presents for friends and the fiancee;
- honeymoon payment (together with his parents).
Now you are aware of who pays for what at weddings, but it is no more than a custom. Nowadays, only a few newlyweds and their parents follow these rules because modern young people are becoming financially independent and decide to get married when they approach consciously.